We weren't just waiting for you to come along and help us make up our minds. Please don't go down the pub and tell your mates you've "turned" a lesbian. As a bi woman, being in a same-sex couple doesn't make us a lesbian, any more than being in an opposite-sex couple makes us straight.
Now, I know I am just one girl, and this is by no means a well-researched or planned experiment, but I can't help but feel that there are consequences to checking the "bi" box.
Again, I tell myself that it should not be this difficult.
Sure, there are dating sites specifically designed for bisexual women, but they do not have the reach or the users of other, more well-known sites, and frankly, they tend to alienate gay women and straight men.
Because, like many other bi girls, I am attracted to gay women and straight men, I want that exposure.
I've loved women deeply and to suggest that me seeing a woman on the side when I'm with a man "doesn't count" is to completely devalue and dismiss that love. A lot of lesbians are terrified of dating bi girls in case they "run off" with a man. Contrary to popular belief, we don't fancy the entire population, any more than straight girls fancy every single bloke. It's kinda cute when you still do a little double-take. Bisexuality is not a comfy little alcove for people to rest in while they gather courage to come out as gay, or just a way to impress guys at parties.10. People don't question a frantically masturbating virgin teenage boy when he says he likes those girls on the internet, so why question adult "virgin" bisexuals? "Oh, so you might as well say you're straight, then? Tending towards one gender in general doesn't in any way dilute our attraction to anyone else we like or have liked.12.