I've even felt the judgments from many of my closest white friends.
They've joked about my "jungle fever," or implied that I obviously just have a "thing" for black girls, or that I always have to be different.
It was as if my friend felt I couldn't compete with the mutual blackness this man and my partner shared, and that everything else paled (excuse the pun) in comparison.
I sometimes wonder how many people are scared of the idea of cross-racial dating or relationships by all of this nonsense - all the assumptions, stereotypes and judgments that they would have to deal with from other people. Many friends tell my partner and I that we are so lucky to have each other and to love each other like we do.
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